Me and my friend have just come home from tunisia, and we each met someone there, we did not sleep with them! they have kept in touch for 3 weeks calling each day and sayin they miss us and wait for us and are not looking for other women. are we being naive if we believe them? they know we are returning in august. I don鈥檛 have experience with Tuesian men, but during my last holidays this year in Israel I had a love affair with a Palestine man... well, I did not fall in love, but I made love with him.
I really like him a lot and I am sure, that I will never forget him, but it is just impossible, it鈥檚 like a different world.
He has a different concept of life, family and future.
I know that he would like to leave this country and come to live in Europe to work and earn more money for his family.
I think he thinks somehow that in Europe everything is easier.
I think he wouldn鈥檛 get along very well here, as in Israel he is working as a coach driver and earns quiet well. In Europe he would get nothing similar.
I tried to explain, but I think he didn鈥檛 believe me very much.
Call it egoism if you like, but I really think he is better off in Israel where he lives well and really IS somebody.
The case is, that I won鈥檛 invite him over.
I know that he already has 2 wives (which is legal there) and he made this "innocent" proposal, asking me if I would like to be his 3rd wife.
I am not looking down on their culture, you see, I think it鈥檚 absolutely okay if all parties agree, but it鈥檚 not for me.
I think he didn鈥檛 understand. He always said that he loved me very much and that he wants to be with me and well, as I already said, he is a really good looking guy, very sweet and I was so happy with him during this week, but I would never try to bring him to Spain to live with me.
Maybe this sounds selfish, but I think, that I couldn鈥檛 even see me with him in normal life.
He said: Marry me and I want to give you many children. He also said, that I will be happy with the other 2 wives and that I won鈥檛 have to bother about work anymore. (I work in travel business, that鈥檚 why I am always around to check the different destinations and trips and so on).
He didn鈥檛 understand that I loved my work and that I couldn鈥檛 imagine myself staying at home like a housewife.
I think he thought that I was just joking or something like that.
Telephone conversation was even more complicated, due to his very Basic English and somebody had to translate for him always.
I tried to make him understand, that there is no future for a relationship between him and me and that there won鈥檛 be any possibility for him to come to Europe to live with me.
The strangest thing was, that he even asked me to come to live with him in Israel.
I didn鈥檛 expect that and that鈥檚 why I sat down and wrote a log letter to him, trying to explain what I felt for him and all the reasons why there was no way for a future relationship or even marriage between us.
He answered some days ago and says that he still loves me and he hopes I change my mind and he hopes I will come to Israel again to see him.
Of course will go back to Israel next year to the tourism fair, but I won鈥檛 call him.
I like him very much and I would love to feel his arms around me again, but honestly I know, that it won鈥檛 be the same.
These things happen once and you just should enjoy the time you spend with such a wonderful person, but going ahead and meet again would ruin the magic of the moments we shared and nothing more than bitterness would remain in the end.
I don鈥檛 want to destroy these nice memories we shared and all I have to do is close my eyes and remember these moments... Yes you are. Sorry love. holiday affair likes warm summer day, it won't last. Use your intuition. I met a foreign person in 2005 and people thought we wouldn't last two weeks but we are planning to get married now. Good luck. x
If you want it to work though you will have to be prepared for some big lifestyle changes. Tunisian men most of them are muslims..
the arabs and north africans are known for their hospitality..
they really know how too treat people well..
if they wanted to sleep with you they would have,but they didnt that shows they have respect for you!
but just be careful!! Maybe. I don't know Tunisia well, but have lived in Morocco for awhile (and have a Moroccan husband).
There are four possible reasons these guys could be keeping in touch: the first is that they know you're coming back and think they could get laid. The second is that they know you're coming back and think they could marry you for a visa to your country. The third is that they know...and don't like their own country's women so prefer foreign women (I know guys here who prefer foreign women because they're less traditional/family-oriented and because they're not as materialistic as some Moroccan girls). #4 - they're just genuinely interested in you.
Be wary of #s 1 and 2, but 3 and 4 are fine. Good question... I've met a Tunisian guy last year, spend more time with him that you did... but told him I had a boyfriend. We've kept in touch for a month and after that, no answer from him. After some months, we were exchanging sms again and in April this year I met him again, spent some nice time... even often I've had the feeling that he liked my money a little too much (silly me, I know). We were planning to meet again this year, he said I have 6 months to be back there, he will wait for me... It's been more than I month since he didn't answer my messages or my phonecalls... When he did, he said he was a too busy, but promised me he did not forget me...
So... I guess I was naive... ;) What do you think? I don't know much about Tunisian men but i know about Egyptian men. When i was on holiday there, a few men would say to me you're so beautiful, i love you i want to make love with you (which i never did) so that is all these men who said this to me were interested in. These men by the information you have given haven't intended to sleep with you which shows alot of respect for you both. Also by making a good effort to contact you shows they like you and want to get to know you better if they jusdt wanted sex they wouldn't be keeping in contact which costs money they would just find a tourist.
Whilst i was in Egypt i did meet an Egyptian man that really does respect me didn't say he wanted to sleep with me. We gave each other our phone numbers and also our email address i got to know about him and he got to know about me and i arranged to go back over to meet him and my mum came as she had never met him i have been many times now on my own and we text everyday and go on the internet and chat most days and its coming up to 1 year.
I think to really know what will happen with them is to get to know them its always different when you return it becomes less of a holiday and more about getting to know each other and how much respect you have for each other.
You will have to be prepared to change slightly to their culture. I don't think you are being naive only you know how genuine they are you have to go with what you feel i asked a question on yahoo answers if i should return to Egypt i got alot of negative answers saying i shouldn't go im only 17 i went and im glad i went as we have made plans together and he really respects me and i really respect him.
Hope everything goes well it could work and it might not work but if you don't try you won't know. it depends i am with a tunisian boy now bin wid him 6 and half months!! sum ppl can b naive i guess bt i didnt give him anythin for 4months and he still waited so jst take a chance in life but dnt giv him the whole of u like dont rush in 2 fings is it ya 1st time over there and wen u return in august i surpose playt bout wid him see how he acts!! It really truly depends on the man you are with. Everyone can tell you their own opinion, but only you and your friend are in the position to know the men. I have known men that want only a green card, and I have known men that truly want a relationship.
Tunisian men are looking more and more for foreign women mainly because they spend their time on the beaches and at hotels doing sports. Because of this they have frequent contact with foreigners and learn about other cultures and have developed an open mind.
I for one met a Tunisian almost eight years ago. At first we were friends and gradually became more. When we parted ways, I didn't know if I would ever see or hear from him again, but he made the first contact with me, calling me and writing me a letter. We kept up contact, visited each other, and our love grew. We eventually got married, and now have two beautiful children and I am expecting our third.
Long distance relationships (no matter who they are with) can work, but do take more time, attention, dedication, trust, honesty, communication, and work. Being intimate or not is not necessarily a sign of whether a relationship will last or not. I know people who waited until they got married, then wound up getting divorced, while others who were together from the very start are still together.
I believe that since these men are making an effort to contact you (calling international from Tunisia is VERY expensive!) is a good indication that they are being serious. I don't know too many men that would spend almost 1TDN a minute to call internationally to a girl they do not have only the best intentions with.
My best advise is to take things slow. Listen not only to what he says to you, but how he says it. Be upfront and truthful to each other about everything. If you have a disagreement or a misunderstanding, talk about it and get it cleared up right away - do NOT push it under the rug and hope it will solve itself, because they never do. Also, have fun and live life in the moment. If you get too caught up in what could happen, or wondering what will happen, you will miss out on all the wonderful things that are happening right now. Like any relationship, some work and some don't. Enjoy what you have right now.
If you ever need to talk to someone, or if I can be of any help or assistance, please feel free to contact me anytime. I'm currently with a tunisian man I live in the UK and we are very happy together I'm going over to meet his family in august.
All men are different no matter were their from some are out for anything they can get some want love , See what happens when you return, see how you feel.
I wish you luck and happiness with what ever happens. men huh
they say anything to keep you sweet. just make sure they have condoms |
