Which comes first - the attraction or the feeling?

are people falling in love with the person they find attractive or are they finding the person attractive because they are in love with him/her???

in any standard dictionary, "attraction" first...a before f...hehehe

in nena's lovelife, i think if attraction comes first, almost always the feeling doesn't follow. but if the feeling is there first, then eventually becomes even deeper feelings, then all at once, object of my affection becomes the handsomest guy in the whole world wide!!!!!!!!!!! hehehe

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attraction

either
the first argument is natural instinct
the second one is social blindness LOL

Attraction

It's doesn't necessarily follow that way always

Some get physically attracted first before they'd feel something for the other person.I'd say
physical attraction is a plus, but he'll be the best sight you'll see all day if you have feelings for him.

I believe that
there r lots of different ways to be attracted to someone not just based on looks. if they treat you right & have qualities that u look for in a mate, that could easily cause u 2 have feelings for that person. like, if they have good conversational skills, that could really b something u love. it all depends on the qualities they hold besides their looks

ATTRACTION MAKES EXTRA SPECIAL IF YOUR FEELINGS ARE FOUNDED ON GENUINE LOVE AND ADMIRATION.

Its always the attraction, its the silent law of nature, call it the hormones or human instinct, its attraction that comes first. Feeing develops when we get to know the person better. We tend to care about them. But it all begins with attraction.

Attraction comes first. Love springs out of intimacy.

The feeling. One finds the other attractive after falling in love, that's a natural consequence.

On the other hand, one might gravitate towards a person who is physically attractive, but not necessarily fall in love with that person, just admire from a distance (figuratively).

wrong , it comes first , with your lust for another one , then love if yoou have that only your lust at first that makes you attrcted to him./her tthats all, admit lol

The attraction comes first... attraction evolves into love... and even you are not attracted anymore, love is still there =D Love is not an east feat after all. It's hard work.

attraction..because when you are attractd with somebody...you will feel something like butterflies in tummies...as in butterfly in stomach....you can't breathe well and you will be in pale......then whenever he/she walks right beside you, you will be freezed because you was attracted by his/her looks

Attraction

attraction comes first.. but it doesnt mean you cant feel something for someone you were not attracted at.. attraction can come also after getting to know someone deeper.. it doesnt always happen at first sight..

are people falling in love with the person they find attractive? yes.. but not always the case.. im sure u find some people attractive but never really fell in love with them.. attraction could just be the first step.. attraction sort of triggers the person who is attracted to get to know the attractive person more.. the attracted person may eventually fall in love with the other person.. falling in love just because of attraction is not possible nor nice..

are they finding the person attractive because they are in love with him/her? probably.. but im sure the person who fell in love felt attraction at first.. it may not be attraction on the other person's physical attributes.. you see, you may be attracted to someone who is not physically attractive.. and once that attraction leads to love, you then find more reasons to be attracted to the other person.. you may now appreciate even his/her imperfections..

It varies. Some people fall in love because they are attracted to the person, others because of the feeling they felt the first time they laid eyes on the person. Have you heard of some people claiming they didn't know what hit them, all they knew was this wonderful, breathless and unexplainable feeling they felt inside?

attraction.

I believe the very first thing is you take notice; not necessarily attraction. More like there's an unexplained thing about that person; I guess you can call it a special feeling - sort of "there's just something about that guy that I can't put my finger into."

In that sense, the feeling comes first and if it blooms to love, then the deep attraction (lust maybe?) comes into play.